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Worried Chinese parents advertize unwed children (2)

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2017-02-14 14:25Xinhua Editor: Gu Liping ECNS App Download

The decline and delay of marriage has alarmed Chinese parents, who fear their family lineage will be broken or no one will look after their unmarried children when they pass away.

"I don't believe in online dating or matchmaking TV shows. The matchmaking corner in parks is created by ourselves and is more reliable. At least we can see the parents first. Through them, we know whether their children are good or not," said the mother, who asked not to be identified by her real name.

Although the odds for a successful match do not look good, "coming to the park is better than waiting at home," said a mother surnamed Chen, who was looking for a potential suitor for her well-educated daughter.

"One of my daughter's classmates found his Miss Right through this matchmaking corner, so she encouraged me to come here," Chen said.

INTO MARRIAGE, WITH LOVE

But not all unwed children support such involvement into their relationships.

Miss Cao, an investment firm employee, wants to focus on her career and does not see marriage or motherhood in her immediate future.

"I feel like I would lose face if my parents had to find me a partner," said Cao, 30, who lied to her mother about her relationship status.

"I do feel embarrassed being a single woman. But I don't want to compromise just to get married," Cao said.

In the past, people like Cao's parents had lower expectations about marriage. Many of them would be happy with a bed, a dining table, a wardrobe and a thermos. Nowadays, singles want their partner to have an apartment, a car, and similar life values.

"But if I fell head over heels in love, I would give up all these material requirements in an instant," she said.

Her view was echoed by Zhang Shasha, relationship expert with zhenai.com, a matchmaking website that claims to have 100 million members.

"Matchmaking corners emerge because Chinese parents think their children will gain happiness through marriage. Their good intentions should be respected," Zhang said.

Yin Xiaojun, associate researcher with Shaanxi Provincial Academy of Social Sciences, said that the soaring cost of marriage, career and life pressure, limited social circle and changing attitudes mean that more people are choosing to stay single.

"We choose to be single because we want to get married for love. It is not because we are not good enough," said Cao.

 

  

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