我们知道,你不想听这个陈词滥调,不过先别急.好消息是,中年女性为获得情绪上的放松,不用非要跑马拉松或是参加其他令人疲惫的体育活动.实际上,有研究表明,适度的锻炼要比剧烈运动更能让女性身心愉悦、活力充沛、精神充实；她们的"自我效能（注：指人们对自身能否利用所拥有的技能去完成某项工作行为的自信程度）"也会更强.
8. They don't try to be … happy?
不去刻意追寻快乐
Oops. Now that we've told you the secrets for happiness, we're here to dash your dreams. A prominent study shows that making happiness a personal goal will actually stand in the way of your achieving it. The researchers found that women who valued happiness more reported being less happy and more depressed than women who didn't place much importance on the goal.
呃,既然已经把快乐的秘诀都告诉你了,我们再来将你的梦想打破.有个著名的研究表明,将追求快乐作为个人目标只会阻碍你获得快乐.研究人员发现,重视快乐的女性却很少能感受快乐,甚至会比那些不太在意追求快乐的人更忧郁.
"Wanting to be happy can make you less happy," said study researcher Iris Mauss. "If you explicitly and purposely focus on happiness, that appears to have a self-defeating quality."
研究者艾丽斯·莫斯表示："一味追求快乐反而会让你变得不快乐.如果你过于明确'追求快乐'这一目标,最终只会尝到挫败的滋味."
So if you really want to be happy, try forgetting about it.
所以说,如果你真想变得快乐,就忘了这事吧.
英文来源：mnn.com
